A Story of Female Strength In An Unusual Place

A Story of Female Strength In An Unusual Place


"Before, I couldn’t even talk to my husband… now, we make every decision together.”

By Emily Janoch 

It’s not every business meeting that starts with a poem, but I think the best ones do. Today, on a field visit to Dona, a small village near Segou, one of the regional capitals of Mali, before we got down to business, the village told me the story of Nyeleni, complete with poetry, dance, and applause.

Meet Nyeleni (actually, meet Salimata Coulibaly, but for today she dressed and danced as Nyeleni). Nyeleni is the brave woman farmer of Bamabara, the majority ethnic group in Mali. Nyeleni was a girl who was so gifted a farmer that she always succeeded. She was her parents’ only child, so even though she was a girl, she was allowed to run their farm, and it was wildly successful. So successful, that many men wanted to marry her. Once married, a woman becomes property of her husband’s house, so when Nyeleni wanted to marry, her parents worried that they would starve. Nyeleni promised that she would take care of them. And she was so successful, and such a hard worker, that she was able to feed two households — an unheard-of feat for a mere woman. As such, Nyeleni has become the woman farmer to which Malian’s aspire. That’s why in Mali, they call the Pathways program Nyeleni. The people who participate in the program are tapping into a cultural value and norm that can help them combat biases and inequality.


"A woman is always a stranger in her house." - Malian proverb


A project in the border region of Mali and Niger to prevent new conflicts and to re-integrate returnees who fled due to past conflicts. Create socio-economic chances and opportunities.

It’s an odd contradiction — this story of female strength in a place where women are usually not considered to be farmers. They grow many food crops, and most vegetables, but that is just for home consumption, so of course it doesn’t count. In most communities in Mali, women don’t have access to land, can’t make decisions about what to plant, and can’t even really talk to their husbands about what they think they should do for their families. A Malian proverb says, “A woman is always a stranger in her house.” At birth, the family does not invest in her, because she will eventually be the property of her husband. Once she’s married, the husband doesn’t invest because he may want to divorce her and send her back to her parents.

But in Dona, Salimata (our Nyeleni for the day) tells a different story — a story of change. She doesn’t feel like a stranger in her own home anymore. Instead, Salimata says that since she and her husband participated in couples’ dialogue, and he has seen the success she has been able to have in the field she shares with other women, her life is totally different. “Before, I couldn’t even talk to my husband. We would never sit in the same space to learn together or make decisions. Now, we make every decision together. We sit and discuss health care, our children’s education, what to plant this year, what to sell and when. We work hand in hand for a better future.”

Food crisis in Mali and food distribution, July 2012

It’s not just the conversation that has changed. When Salimata and her husband participated in an exercise called the “Daily Clock,” where men and women write down their different tasks for the day, he was appalled at how much work she had. “He went out and bought a wagon so it would be easier for me to cut wood and bring it home, to gather water for the house, and to travel to far away fields when I needed to.” For Salimata, this is the biggest change the project has had in her life.

It’s a change we see over and over again. If you change the expectations about what women can do, and what they are doing, you can change the game. Women have an easier workload, more productivity, and more power over their own lives. Tapping into stories like Nyeleni’s helps people understand that women being successful is not a cultural imposition from the west, but part of their own heritage. Starting with a poem gives us something to celebrate, and reminds us that women can do it all.

About the Program: CARE’s Pathways Program is based on the conviction that women farmers possess enormous potential to contribute to long-term food security for their families and substantially impact nutritional outcomes in sustainable ways. The program builds on CARE’s expertise in smallholder agriculture, financial inclusion, nutrition, women’s empowerment and market engagement. Working in partnership with others, Pathways promotes transformative change in women’s lives and the lives of their families by combining and expanding upon the best of what we know. Pathways aims to increase the productivity and empowerment of women farmers in more equitable agriculture systems at scale. Specific objectives include increasing the productivity and empowerment of 150,000 poor women farmers in sustainable and equitable agricultural systems; enhancing the scale of high-quality women-responsive agricultural programming within and beyond CARE; and influencing debates and policy dialog on women and agriculture at local, national and global levels. Mali is one of six Pathways countries, along with Ghana, Tanzania, Malawi, India, and Bangladesh.

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